To all the married folks…
So here it is Valentine’s Day and you are either posting pictures of the lovely flowers/card/letter/jewelry you are getting or giving. (And all your single friends smile politely and go eat another Reese’s heart!)
Or maybe not. Maybe you post no pictures and share no comments because to be honest, your marriage isn’t super awesome right now. If you really were honest, really honest, it’s hard and it’s lonely and most days these days, it feels like more like a strained business partnership than a love connection.
So what in the world could this single girl have to say to your situation? Well- I’ve been single lonely. But I’ve also been married lonely. And honestly, seasons of married lonely were much harder.
Last week, a demo crew was in my home tearing up all my wood floors, down to raw lumpy, bare concrete. Full of cracks and holes and uneven spots. When the new floor guy came, he shook his head in dismay. “Got a bunch of low spots here", he said, "We’re gonna need a lot of float”. He mixed up bag after bag of grey stuff and slowly poured it over the floor in the bad places and watched it spread out. Float did it’s job. Cracks disappeared. Uneven places were filled in.
Float. The stuff that fills in all the low spots. And evens out the ugly.
Maybe your marriage needs some ‘hope’ to float in today and fill in the low spots. You don’t need flowers or candy but simply hope. Hope that it’s gonna be ok. Hope that you are still in this together.
And to remember: ‘May the God of all hope, fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.’ Romans 15:13
Maybe you could float some hope today by simply writing honest words on a card and looking into the eyes of the one that you married and say, “Yep, I still do. “
Because, after all:
Happy Valentine’s Day. Make your middle count today!